It was a nice day; sunny, and the sky was clear.  My friends and I were travelling by car for a weekend break. The friend who was driving was still very chatty.  The other, sat beside her, acted as a navigator.  I was sat in the back, but still engaged in the conversation with my two girls.

We talked about random things; from appreciating the weather to our future plans. The girls asked me about my new life as a married woman, and I told them how great it is being with someone I love in marriage. Then they asked me; “What is married life? Is it different from living together with your partner?”

When the question was asked, I was so confident to answer it!  I know that marriage is not just about living together with your partner under the same roof. It is not just sharing a room with somebody else. It is more than that. I have been praying for God to teach me about this.  I have learned from my parents and other Christian married couples. I have read books about Christian marriage, and books about how to be a godly wife. I have been practicing and training myself for it. I have been learning and learning.

I know I understand what marriage is, but the answer I gave that day in the car was; “It’s about sharing your dreams…”

I paused.

They pursued me with more questions; “and then what?” “what the different?”

All of sudden my mind went blank, and I didn’t know how to answer them.

Later, when I arrived home from the trip with the girls, I tried to figure out why I couldn’t give them an answer about something that I believe I understand. Then I realised there was actually another issue I should work on.

Salt and Light

I always hate conflict, and want to see all people in harmony. I believe it is part of my personality. Somehow, it makes me think, act, and respond to people in a very careful way. I always try to be on a neutral side of everything. Even when there is a chance to share gospel, I will always end up sharing things that could be universally accepted. I don’t want people to get the wrong impression that I’m trying to convert them. I am afraid that people will get the impression that Christians always try to convert those who are different. No we don’t. We love people! That is why I am always afraid to share my beliefs with non-Christians.

I often see myself as what is described in Matthew 5; salt that has lost its saltiness, or a light hidden under a bowl.

You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.
You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven (Matthew 5:13-16).

This is our calling as Christians: to share our knowledge of Him, and of how life is supposed to be in Him. This is our job; to share the light to people surround us.

If people ask something, they are looking for an answer. If we know the answer, why do we need to hold it within us?  Share it! (Talking to myself too xx)

I know some people may say “I don’t need a Christian answer!”  But why ask a Christian a question and expect them not to base their answer on their faith?

I am a Christian, and I am living a Christian-based Lifestyle where God is at the centre of my life. This means that how I act, speak, and write should represent what I believe. If I am trying to be neutral in almost everything, then I am trying to be somebody else.

I don’t know if you have struggled on these same issues or not, but I think all Christians should remember that our knowledge of who God is, and how He transforms our lives and minds, should be shared to the people around us.

Dear myself, be bolder in your faith!


Fillia DR · July 17, 2016 at 11:11 am

Thanks Elizabeth!

Fillia DR · July 17, 2016 at 11:09 am

Amen! Let's be bolder in faith. We are here to share the good news not to convert people.

adorkablejoy · July 17, 2016 at 8:46 am

Great post! I, too, struggle with this – especially since of my friends I've known for the longest isn't Christian. I know only God can save, but sometimes I wonder if I am missing or shying away from opportunities to share the good news with them because I, too, don't want to make them feel like I am trying to convert them. Praying for boldness for us both!

Oak & Oats · July 16, 2016 at 8:00 am

This post is so sweet and encouraging! When people ask questions, they are looking for answers! Why do we hold back?! Praying for boldness!

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